How To Write Marriage Vows

Compiled by Julie Hebert - Updated July 6, 2024

Wedding Poems   |   How To Write Marriage Vows

The most romantic marriage vows anyone will ever come across will be those that come from the heart. So with that said, the most romantic vow you will say to your bride or groom will be one that you write yourself. This promise can also include a line, a section, or a whole love poem. Here we will give you some effective tips on how to write your marriage vows and share some love poems that you may want to consider using as part of your vows.

How To Write Marriage Vows

Effective Tips For Writing Your Own Thoughtful Marriage Vows

Marriage vows are an important part of any wedding ceremony. They are a way for couples to publicly declare their commitment to each other, and to share the promises they have made. When it comes to writing marriage vows, there's no one-size-fits-all formula. But if you want your vows to be meaningful and heartfelt, here are some tips that can help. First, choose words that reflect who you are as a couple. Be specific, honest, and genuine. Avoid cliches and sappy lines; instead, focus on expressing your joy in the commitment of marriage. Pour your heart into writing your vows, as these will be words that you'll cherish for years to come!

- Be Personal
When writing your marriage vows, it is important to make them as personal as possible. Talk about specifics that are important to you, such as memorable moments that bring you closer together or shared interests and experiences. Try to focus on what makes your relationship unique, citing examples from your past and future together. This will ensure your vows are heartfelt, meaningful, and truly reflect the bond between you and your partner.

- Show Your Vulnerability
When writing your marriage vows, it�s important to be sincere and vulnerable while also conveying the love and commitment that you have for each other. Show your partner how much they mean to you by expressing why you are choosing them, sharing your hopes and dreams for the future together, and pledging your loyalty and faithfulness. Don�t be afraid to show emotion! Writing your marriage vows should feel like an intimate conversation between the two of you that could really only be expressed in words.

-  Incorporate Humor and Shared Experiences
Adding a bit of humor to your vows can make all the difference, as long as you�re being respectful and don�t say anything that could offend anyone else or detract from the gravity of the ceremony. You can also include details that demonstrate why your relationship is special and different, such as memories of shared experiences, inside jokes, nicknames for each other, or funny stories you may have together. These kinds of details are what make your vows truly memorable.

-  Make A Statement of Unconditional Love and Support
The foundation of your marriage vows should be unconditional love and support. This means that you are committing to always having each other's back, no matter what life's challenges bring. Make sure to express that emotional connection in your writing so that it reverberates with both you and your partner as you exchange your wedding vows on the big day.

-  Include Promises for the Future Together
Make sure your vows include plans for the future. Expressing how excited you are to share adventures, create memories and build a home together is a great way to show that your vows extend beyond just the current moment. As you express your commitment, make sure to mention all of the dreams you two have for the future and how you are both ready for what lies ahead.

-  Make Your Marriage Vows Structurally Sound and Easy to Remember
When writing your own marital vows, consider the flow of your statement's structure. Keep in mind that you�ll want them to be easy to remember and recite without getting tongue-tied or stumbling on words. For example, consider separating thoughts into sections. Include an introduction, a few different body paragraphs with specific oaths or promises, and then close with a heartfelt ending.

You may also want to review our collection of Wedding Vow Samples

I love you, Not only for what you are, But for what I am when I am with you.

In addition, review our collection of Traditional Wedding Vows

Poems That Could Be Used as part of Your Marriage Vows

We hope you will be able to use one of these poems in your vows. Feel free to just take from the poem what you like. You never have to use a whole poem in your vow. Taking just a section or even just a line that says what you are feeling may be just perfect.


Poet: C. A. Lynch

My love for you is strong and true
From here to eternity, I will stay with you
In good times and bad, in sickness and health
I promise to be a rock that stands against all stealth.

Our love will grow, day by day
Today and when we turn gray.
Through it all, my promise will be sure
It�s an ever-lasting bond forevermore.

Poet: Roy Croft

I love you,
Not only for what you are,
But for what I am when I am with you.

I love you,
Not only for what you have made of yourself,
But for what you are making of me.

I love you for
the part of me that you bring out;

I love you for
putting your hand into my heaped-up heart
And passing over all the foolish, weak things
that you can�t help dimly seeing there,
And for drawing out into the light
All the beautiful things
that no one else had looked
Quite far enough to find.

I love you because you have done
More than any creed
Could have done
To make me good,
And more than any fate could have done
To make me happy.

You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it by being yourself
Perhaps that is what
Being a friend means, after all.

My Life Is A...
Poet: May Riley Smith

My life is a bowl which is mine to brim
With loveliness old and new.
So I fill its clay from stem to rim
With you, dear heart,
With you.

My life is a pool which can only hold
One start and a glimpse of blue.
But the blue and the little lamp of gold
Are you, dear heart,
Are you.

My life is a homing bird that flies
Through the starry dusk and dew
Home to the heaven of your true eyes,
Home, dear heart,
To you.

My Rock
Poet: Julie Hebert

You are my rock who keeps me grounded
The one who makes sure I'm safe.
You love me no matter what happens,
And always makes sure I'm with faith.

My heart thumps when I see you
When you walk into the room where I am.
I want to run over and jump you,
With a hug and a kiss, cause I can.

Together we are a great love
One where others wish they had.
I am so lucky to have found you,
I know now I will never be sad.

Growing Old With You
Poet: Julie Hebert

To grow old with someone so dear
Would make my life so great.
I can only imagine what life will be like
To be hand in hand with my mate.

Life will become very simple
No worries about vanity to unfold.
All that will matter is you and I
And our love that will never get old.

You have made me so happy
And all I can hope is you too.
For all I want from now until I die
Is to sit and grow old with you.

Thank You For Loving Me
Poet: Julie Hebert

I love you for being you,
I love you for loving me,
I love you for always wanting to do,
Everything that will make me happy.

You have taken all that you have,
And everything that you can find,
To give me a life of happiness,
That you want to always be mine.

So, thank you for being you,
Thank you for loving me,
Thank you for giving me everything,
I hope we together will always be.

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